The Life & Times of a 54 Year Old Online Dater

Thoughts on My Experiences In Search of Love & Companionship, 10 Years Running

10 Seconds Is All It Takes……. October 27, 2010

Filed under: bad dates,internet dating — Grey Goose, Dirty @ 11:14 am
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Isn’t that what they say as far as the amount of time it takes for someone to ‘evaluate’ if you’re attracted to someone or not?  Eh, for me, it’s more like 5 seconds.  What?  Don’t judge.

Really, someone can be nice as can be, smart, funny, a good dresser, have great manners, fabulous friends and family, witty, kind, and just about every other quality that you might look for in a ‘match’, but if you’re not physically attracted to them, then what’s the point?

Yes, I realize that some will argue that you can ‘grow’ to be attracted to someone, but I don’t really buy it.  What it comes down to is this:  If I can’t see myself kissing someone (okay fine, it’s more like sleeping with them as we all know I’m not all that discerning in who I’ll kiss), then regardless of all other qualities, it’s not going to work.  Yup, takes me about 5 seconds to decide ……….. judge if you will, but to me, it’s important!

(and just for the record, although i wax on about tall, blonde haired, blue-eyed, gorgeous guys ~ that’s not really my type – well sure, i wouldn’t turn one of them down if they asked me out, i’m no dummy – but I tend to lean towards the quirky, somewhat nerdy types for some reason ………. perfect example: while everyone was lusting after classically handsome Mel Gibson years ago (ewwww), I was totally infatuated with John Malkovitch.  Damn he was a sexy bastard ala’ Dangerous Liaisons!  Sadly, not so much anymore though) 😉


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