Yeah, i know, I’ve already tried to sell my mother on here (thanks for no-one jumping at that stellar offer) but now I would like to offer up my judgemental, fish-wifey, condescending, bitchy, holier than thou twin sister. As she tells everyone, she got the brains and looks and I got the height. Yeah. Unbelievable I shared a womb with that charming individual. So Sunday was my dad’s birthday. She was having some ridiculous luncheon at her house and invited her husband’s entire family. Why? Who knows. My sister lives really far, we don’t get along well, I certainly don’t have a great (or even good) relationship with my dad, but as he’s getting older, I figure the least I could do was haul my happy ass down there to drop off a card and a gift, make an appearance, and turn around and come back home. Where I actually like people. 😉 Here’s my question. What on earth would possess my twin: same age, less successful, less driven, less well adjusted (i know, hard to believe after my multiple breakdowns this month) with not one ounce of empathy or compassion for anyone outside of her husband and step kids to lecture me on how I am supposed to act around her friggin’ in-laws? Hello? I was polite, I smiled and said hello to everyone and then I left. Why would I want to stay around negative people who I don’t like?
So I called her today to say hello and see how everything went and she started in on me. And I let her go. And then I stopped her and told her I really wasn’t in the mood for a lecture as I hadn’t done anything wrong. So she paused, and then started up again on how everyone was just ‘shocked’ that I didn’t stay. Really? Is it that everyone in my family just likes the sound of their own voices so much that they feel the need to ramble on to others just so they can feel better about themselves by dressing down others?
Oh wait, this is supposed to be a testimonial so I can hopefully get her sold
into white slavery to a nice deaf family who won’t have to listen to her. Uh, what if I offer to throw in a batch of brownies as part of the deal?
and just so it can float out here in the blogosphere for all eternity, I give you my utmost passive aggressive e-mail to said sister (we do passive aggressive really well in my family) ~ enjoy!
why on earth would you feel it appropriate or warranted to lecture me on not staying on sunday. i got there i tried to talk to dad, he continued to read his paper. i said hi to J & F and as i have nothing to talk to them about that was about it. i talked to L for a bit. when C came out of his room, i talked to him about how his weekend was. when chris, et. al. showed up i smiled and said hello ….. to no response. i talked to you, i talked to M, it was my only day off and i had no desire to hang out there, so i left.
i thought it was a nice gesture that i bothered showing up at all ……. and i certainly won’t make that mistake again ……. i’ve been to your house exactly 4 times …….. it’s not my fault that you live so far away and that i don’t like your husband’s family …….. i came to see dad and give him his present ……. i did talk to your kids – if it will make you feel better next time, i will make sure to talk to them right in front of you so you can see it happening ……..
sorry that you don’t ‘get’ why i didn’t stay ……… you didn’t need to……….. it makes no matter to me ……..i hope you had a nice time with everyone ……….
and i’ll go ahead and call bullshit on everyone being ‘shocked’ that i didn’t stay ………