Correct me if I’m wrong, but Sundays are supposed to be a day of rest, right? Nope, not for me. Let’s see, I woke up early, sent a crappy e-mail, went to work for 9 hours, came home, received a response to said crappy e-mail, received a really funny message from a guy on Match, did some laundry, got to watch some of my favorite reality TV and then went to bad. Whew. Lots went on. So, what would you like to hear about 1st? What I had for dinner? Nah, I didn’t think so.
Let’s start with laundry, shall we? Okay fine, how about the guy from Match. Sent me a very short, very funny message giving me a link to something that I mentioned in my profile. You know what that means don’t you? He actually bothered to read my profile! And still opted to contact me. Go figure. 😉 He has a nice smile, so I wrote him back. An equally short message, but really, his profile was all of about 4 lines long, so not much to go on. Now we all know how friggin’ picky I am about guys and how I’m all about looks and personality (yeah, yeah, it’s already been decided that I’m superficial, so get over it). Let me list Mr. Onion’s (in reference to The Onion, which I love) stats, in decending order of my excitement, or lack thereof. He’s got a very nice smile, he’s a doctor, he’s 50, he marked ‘slender’ as body type (awesome), he’s only 5’11” (which I hope doesn’t mean 5’8″) and ……….. wait for it …………. ready?……….. he’s Jewish. As all the guys I’ve been excited about meeting over the past 2 years have turned out to be shit, maybe it’s time I try something new? So taking into consideration that I prefer tall guys under the age of 50 who are not ‘slender’, I think I’m taking a chance. Toss in the fact that I have never ever dated a Jewish guy and this is me expanding my horizons. Actually I just want to be able to tell my mom that I’m dating a Jewish Doctor ……. I bet she cries. 😉
Shall we discuss e-mails next? Of the TD variety? Of the response to the e-mail I sent him earlier variety? Of the TD responding to my earlier e-mail by actually dumping me as a friend? Yeah, awesome. I didn’t even know that could happen! Who the hell ‘breaks up’ with a friend? It was nicely worded, but what it comes down to is that if/when he gets back together with his icky neighbor ex, he planned on dumping me as a friend anyway. Uh, what? ‘She’ wouldn’t allow it. Just like he assured me he wouldn’t do. Sadly, instead of just coming out and telling me this, he has intentionally been pulling back and being somewhat rude to me and letting me think that I had done something wrong for the past few weeks. Not sure how I feel about that. He thinks I’m jealous of the ex as well as the gal from Friday night. Well gee, if you wouldn’t have let me think I had done something wrong, told me to leave you alone for a few days and then rubbed my nose in the fact that you were hanging out with and confiding in someone else, maybe you would have gotten a different reaction. Ever think of that? Parts of his message don’t even make much sense (to me at least). Surprisingly, I am taking the news quite well. Kinda sad, kinda mad, kinda meh. Maybe I should thank him for being a little shit at the end in order to make it easier? I’m thinking that he, his neighbor & her ex sorta belong together. In one totally dysfunctionally codependent love triangle. I haven’t decided whether or not to even bother responding. Oh hell, I post every other e-mail in the universe, so here you go:
So much of what you say is true, but I would never knowingly throw something in your face. What happened friday was a chance to help someone else instead of me being the sad sap for once. And I felt really good about it. But now Im getting the same treatment from her, silence, even though she promised to let me know how things worked out with her boyfriend. Oh well.
You are right that I changed. Two reasons: one, work picked up and I truly could not spend the time txting as I did the first few weeks. Yes, I should have told you that. Second, and more importantly, I saw myself getting closer to my ex. And I knew that if I got back together with her, I could not communicate with you openly anymore. She would not accept you being in my life. I could say that it is just jealousy on her part, but when I found out she was constatnly texting someone from Match (even though she was never going to meet up with him) it really hurt me. Then I saw what I was doing with you, and how that would not be fair to mindy if we got back together. Im still on a break from her, but I dont know whats going to happen, and I certainly dont feel justified in stringing you along as a friend if I feel I might have to break it off when/if the ex and I got back together.
Thus my hesitations the past few weeks. I am truly sorry I disappointed you. You have been a wonderful friend. But I also feel like you would get jealous when I talked about her or even last friday. Am I wrong? I feel I need to settle this thing with my ex before anything else happens in my life. I love to have friends, but its not fair to you if I have to pull away at some point. I know I have already done that to some degree and look what I have done to you. Im truly sorry and hope you understand.
Uhm, is it even possible to ‘string along’ a friend? I’d actually like to hear your thoughts on this one as I think I might be in a little bit of shock……..