Okay, so as I’m sure everyone, including myself, is tired of reading stories of non-dates and is probably a bit confused as to why an internet dating blogger actually has nothing of interest to actually blog about, I have opted to make the supreme sacrifice of logging back into Match today. For all of about 4 minutes. What? Baby steps, people! Here’s the thing. I always look at the ‘who’s viewed me’ section just so I can brush up on what all the ex cons and recent parolees in my area look like. 😉 Honestly though, I’ve never seen such a motley crew of guys before.
As I realize that I can’t just sit back and take a passive approach to this and hope that Mr. Kinda Wonderful magically appears on my doorstep, I know that I need to run my own searches and contact random
hotties nice guys 1st. And then sit back and see if they’re smart enough to respond. This is how I’ve always done it. I’m proactive in this impossible search of mine. When I run my searches though, I do just as my Doppelganger told me and I don’t specify a lot of ‘must haves’, as I can just generate the list of ickies bachelors and weed out from there. Here’s the thing though. I have about 3 absolute non-negotiables. I’m sorry, but I refuse to date someone who is 5 inches (oh who am I kidding, more like 1 inch) shorter than me. I have no desire to have to plop my date up on the kitchen counter in order to get a kiss from him. I have no desire to date anyone of an age range that is totally unacceptable and will result in my either getting arrested or having random strangers tell me it’s nice that I’m spending the evening with my grandfather. I’m also a stickler for proximity in that I’m not so keen on ‘dating’ someone who lives 18 states away. I have also always put ‘only show me profiles with pictures’. As I keep seeing the same guys search after search, I’m wondering if I should really live on the edge and have them send me profiles that don’t have pictures?
Do normal, non hideous people actually have profiles up without pics? I realize that some may still think there is a stigma attached to internet dating; some may have high profile jobs; or some may just be shy. I also can’t help but wonder if it’s the exceptionally unattractive, prison inmate, married men that are the ones without pictures up. Here’s another thing though. I’d actually have to read all of the profiles. ALL of them! And decide if I even like what they have to say before I dive in and ask for a picture right away. I really have no desire to spend any time messaging with someone who I have no clue if I’d even be attracted to. Kinda like the internet dating version of that awesome, all too short lived show, Dating In The Dark.
I know there are other internet daters that read my drivel and am wondering what your experiences are with this. Have you ever met anyone that you didn’t know what they looked like? Have you ever contacted anyone with no picture? I actually did once, many many many years ago when I first tried online dating (before running away screaming) and I did end up meeting him with never having seen a picture of him. Let’s suffice it to say that he was NOT my type. We ended up being friends for a few years though. Until I figured out that he was a little more into me, and drinking until he’d pass out (apparently the 2 go hand in hand) than I was comfortable with.
So here’s my question. Do I really want to spend hours weeding thru faceless profiles?