So we all (yes, all 3 of us) know that I kinda love these new ‘match mixer’ events that match.com puts on around my town. They seem to be every couple of weeks ago and allow me to go meet random tools and douchebags (and hopefully that one shiny penny) in person vs. online. Love it! I can discount people on the spot instead of having to exchange annoying messages back and forth before discovering that they’re not who they claim to be in their profiles. Brilliant! Although it makes for an amazingly humorous blogpost to read about the 6’3″ inch tall blonde man who I was so excited about meeting only to find a 5’10” rather rotund 65 year waiting for me, but it’s not all about you now, is it?
Anyway, tonight is another happy hour-ish event that I wanted to go to. Trouble is, TD was nice enough to inform me, via e-mail addressed to ‘dearest GG’, and ‘in the interest of full disclosure’ last night that he is actually going to this one. He said he wouldn’t go if I didn’t want him to and also informed me that he’s going with MY wing-woman (who I actually stole from him but that’s besides the point). He told me that they were both worried about hurting my feelings (damn, when did I become this fragile annoyance?) by going but that he was fine with me going and he even offered to ‘share’ said wingwoman (whose head will most likely explode if TD and I are both in the same room as she’ll be totally conflicted on what to do). He actually wrote that he was going to ask me to go with him but thought that would be ‘awkward and inappropriate’. You think? I told him to go, have fun and I wouldn’t go.
Here’s the thing though. I was planning on going. If he wouldn’t have let me know that he was going, he would have just appeared and I would have either a) run and hid b) started crying run and hid c) gotten pissed run and hid or d) been surprised as hell and carried on with my evening. I would like to think that it would have been option D. I kind of appreciate his letting me know he was going instead of just blindsiding me with it. There seems to be a fairly strong debate between my friends (all 2 of them) as to whether or not I should still go. Can’t I still go and do my best to ignore him? Doesn’t not going speak louder than my still going? Don’t I have a better chance of actually meeting the man that makes me go ‘TD who?’ at a singles event over sitting at home on my couch with my dogs?
I want to go. Wingwoman #1 is already spoken for and Wingwoman #2 is being a very good human being and volunteering at the food bank this evening so can’t go. I don’t have an issue going alone. Hell, it’s in a bar for crying out loud. Still undecided at this point. Do I want to see TD hit on other women? Yeah, probably not. Does he want to actually see me be hit on by other men (I could be so lucky)? I doubt that as well. He knows that these events are my thing, so why shouldn’t I still go and have fun? What if I don’t go and the perfect(ish) guy is there for me and I miss out on meeting him?
When did happy hours get so complicated?
and yes, I still hear from TD. He sends me texts and e mails telling me what an amazing friend I am thanking me for sticking by him and going above and beyond for he and his kids ……. blah blah blah. I either ignore him or tell him that I don’t really want to hear it. Sometimes I respond, sometimes I don’t. He was even nice enough to fill me in on the 411 regarding TVCW who is no more. Gee, thanks. I haven’t seen him in over 3 weeks and that’s a record. I do ‘talk’ to him more than I should, but know that I’m moving in the right direction regarding cutting ties. It just seems to be a much slower process for me regarding him than I recall having to go thru with anyone else…… baby steps, remember?