Oh hell no, not me for crying out loud (it’s like you don’t know me at all). The only ‘real’ communication I’ve had is with a guy from E-Horrorme who doesn’t ask me a single question in his messages to me although I’ve given him many an opening. I’m guessing neither of us is all that excited about the other …. oh well.
Anywhoo………Matthew needs our help (oy, to have his problems) 😉 ! Read on…..
There were a number of things I wanted to get posted for you all *two or three readers* before getting into the following situation, but alas life had other plans.Ideally, I would have had at least a couple of weeks to lay down some ground work and establish a background regarding how things have been the last few weeks, and even provide a little insight on how things were for me personally during the last couple of months while still in my latest relationship.Alas, life has other plans. So, we’re just going to have to dive into things and then I’ll get to that other stuff at a later date. Kind of think of my posts like a Quentin Tarantino movie where the chronology jumps back and forth between past, present and future.Here’s the short and condensed version of the last couple of months. There was tension between the girl and I. Some less-than-stellar arguments. Friction in the relationship. Doubts about our future together began to loom. Distancing was done. Relationship ended.Up to date? Good. 🙂Because here’s where I’m in a bit of a pinch.Since I was having my own doubts about the relationship I didn’t really require that much of a mourning period when the Ex and I officially broke up. Yes, any break up stinks but you can’t fight the truth and facts. Not wanting to sit idly by and let life go on without me I decided to be proactive and get out into the world to meet new people……by creating a new account and building a profile on OkCupid (or OKStupid if you’re GG).Nearly 2 years ago, when I last had an account here, my sent/received messages ratio was close to 40:1. I hardly got any type of replies.Obviously hell has frozen over because out of four girls I sent messages to over the last week, two have written back already. How am I suddenly getting 2:1 odds? Did I actually write a decent profile? *I am very well submit some excerpts from my profile for your review at a later date*Over this last weekend (Friday-Sunday) I’ve shared a back-and-forth with a very cool girl on there. We’ve both written four (4) times to the other. The conversations have been good. Fun comments and jabs at the other persons expense. Good rapport. She is definitely someone I could have a good time with.Here’s where I need a little advice.I’m beginning to get the feeling that the time is already coming to option an actual face-to-face meeting. My guts says that if I don’t make some sort of forward movement besides small comments that suggest eventually meeting in person any, and all, opportunities could be lost and she may lose interest completely.Even though I make my intentions clear on my profile that I’m not looking for anything serious at this time, suggesting meeting face-to-face is technically going to be a date. Well, I didn’t really think I’d be going on any dates, at least, until I moved into my new apartment…considering that fact that the Ex and I are still living together in the same house until I move into said new apartment beginning August 15th. *please note that since the break-up I have been sleeping in the living room, on the couch, so there has been absolutely no funny business.*What do you all think? Should I suggest meeting in person even though I was trying to avoid “dating” until the Ex and I were no longer living in the same house? Is it even an option of telling this girl that I’d like to meet but would prefer waiting until mid-August? Is my gut even correct in thinking she may lose interest (platonic-ally or more) if I don’t break the message chain soon?