I have a hugely delusional friend. Yes, even using me, the educated, mature adult that has made up an imaginary boyfriend as the measuring stick. He (of course it’s a guy) is a lot of things. He’s a lovely combination of smart, kind, caring, and compassionate counterbalanced by the fact that he’s self involved, he’s got a victim mentality and he’s more than a little self righteous. I’ve defended him more times than I can count in the past. I don’t think this newest revelation is defensible. Or in any way shape or form, right. And may actually be the proverbial ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’. We were talking the other day and here’s what came up.
Although he’s seeing someone for over a year now, a few months ago he sent a ‘drunk text’ to someone that he dated previously letting her know that he was thinking about her a lot. In and of itself, that’s not TOO horrible as we all do stupid things we don’t really mean when under the influence. Or so I’ve heard. 😉 Originally he told me that she never responded and that was that. Turns out, he lied. She did respond. They have met up twice over the past 3 months. They talk and text a few times a week. He has not told this new person that he’s seeing someone. He certainly hasn’t told his girlfriend that he’s seeing this other woman. Due to the fact that they haven’t so much as touched, he does not consider this cheating. I sure as hell do. I don’t think there needs to be actual physical contact in order to count as cheating.
Isn’t the fact that he’s even communicating with someone who he is romantically interested in when he’s in a relationship with someone else considered cheating?
I’d love to hear your thoughts …………..