The world of online dating, that is. I went out of town for 4 days. Prior to that, I was messaging with 2 seemingly great guys. Apparently 4 days away was all it took to cure them of their attraction to me. I messaged them when I got back (they knew I was going out of town) and I am now privy to the sound of crickets. Online affections are quite fleeting.
I’m confused by a new guy. Not that I know anything about him, but I fear he’s bad news. Not sure why. I logged on today to one of my multiple dating sites to see that he had sent me a ‘flirt’. Uhm, okay. I read his profile and it said he was a recovered bad boy. I assume that was his attempt at humor, but who knows. Anyway, as I was about to run out the door, I saved him to my favorites with the intention of messaging him when I had time. Well, not 4 seconds after I did that, he sends a note saying ‘why not just message me’. Uhm, hold on slugger, I’m getting there.
He basically told me his name and asked for my phone number. Yeah. No. I wrote back saying that I’m hesitant to give out my number right away to men I know nothing about online. He writes back saying that he’s sorry for whatever I’ve experienced in the past to make me feel that way, but that he’s not a stalker or weirdo. That he hates typing and would rather have a conversation in real time. That ‘when I’m ready to start this’, to send him my number.
I’m hugely annoyed by this and I’m not sure why. Maybe he’s a huge ALPHA and likes things his way. Maybe he’s dying to send me a dic pic. Maybe he’s just an asshole. While I’ve given out my number right away before, I’ve never had someone tell me that they won’t communicate unless it’s over the phone. Even if I was thinking about sending it to him, now I don’t want to because he basically told me I had to. Thoughts??