So everyone says that you ‘find it when you’re not looking’. Honestly, I kinda want to smack the shit out of those people. It’s annoying. I even had a friend go so far as to tell me over brunch one day that I was still single because I had an ‘agenda’ and was ‘looking’ too hard. What? I have no agenda and if the fact that I have a half assed dating profile online is considered looking too hard, then I don’t know what to do about that. She said that I just need to leave it up to the universe. To sit back and it would find me. She also said that I need to wear more form fitting clothes. Considering she dresses a bit like a high class hooker, I let that one go.
I attempted to explain to her that being ‘open and hopeful’ regarding finding someone and ‘having an agenda’ are two completely different things. She wasn’t listening. Whatever. I know she meant no harm, but the way she said it was just so condescending and annoying. She’s lucky I didn’t throw my eggs benedict at her.
Best part of all this? Unbeknownst to me, she hired a matchmaker!!!! Way to leave it to the universe.
Okay, moving on. Last night I opted to clean out the contacts in my phone. When I list guys from online into my phone I usually put their 1st name, which website they’re from (remember that I’ve been on many over the years) and some sort of identifier. For those of you keeping track, last night I deleted 8 Johns, 3 Pauls, 2 Toms, 4 Davids and a few other assorted names. If I couldn’t even picture who they were or when we conversed, they got deleted.
Not 2 minutes after I did that I received a text from an unknown number saying ‘Hi Grey Goose, I hope that you’ve been well. Are you still single and dating?’ How amazingly random is that timing? As I assumed that it was someone that I had just deleted, I wrote back that I was fine and saying that I wasn’t sure who this was as I had just cleaned out my phone. He sent back that it had been a while, that I may not remember him and gave me his name. Still wasn’t sure as there were 2 guys I sort of remembered with his name and I still had to figure out which one he was.
Being the smart cookie that I am, I figured it out. And remembered why we had never met previously. We had had one phone conversation in which I don’t think we clicked and he didn’t seem over his ex yet. I certainly wasn’t going to go down that road ever again, so I opted out of meeting. We texted back and forth for a while and he wants to meet up now, but I’m not sure. I guess we’ll see. Until then, the ‘good morning’ text messages have begun.
Want to know the most random thing of all about this? This is the 2nd time this has happened! Last time I deleted a bunch of names from my phone, I got a text from an unknown number who happened to be a different guy from online. So weird. Maybe the universe has some sort of notification system when a prospect gets deleted from your phone?