One of these days you’re going to check in to find a post about a wonderful date that I had with a man I met online and how bright our future looks together. Today isn’t that day.
Today is the sad, sad update to this guy. The one that I’ve seen all over town for the past year. The one that my friend wanted to set me up with a year ago and I said no. The one that I actually met in person the other night.
I went to a happy hour with one of my meetup groups and he was there! Yey. My chance to just walk up, introduce myself, make a cute reference to us both being Packers fans and viola’, love would bloom from there. Unfortunately, that’s not what really happened. The second he got there he started speaking with the ex boyfriend of one of my best girlfriends. As that relationship didn’t end well, let’s say that he’s not one of my biggest fans. Super. I did manage to walk over and introduce myself, but that was it as the daggers that my friend’s ex was shooting me via his look was a bit uncomfortable. Okay, I made contact and now I’d just wait for the swooning (on his part) to start. It didn’t. He ended up hanging with ex-bf the entire evening, so I left. Boo.
As will happen when I’m bored stiff, I logged onto POF the next day. And guess who came up in my ‘swipe left/right’ thing? Mr. Packer’s Fan! Fine. I’ll bite the bullet and send him a short message.
Me: Hi Mr. Packer’s Fan, I met you last night at happy hour. You wrote a terrific profile and it sounds like we have a lot in common! We could compare (referenced in his profile) gadgets sometimes. Anyway, I hope you’re having a great day. As you came up in my matches today, I just thought I’d say ‘hi’.
Of course, my anticipated outcome would be for him to pick up where I left off and indeed suggest meeting up to compare gadgets. Or to make reference to something in my profile. Or write anything to continue the dialogue. What I got instead was this:
Him: Hi Grey Goose, it was nice meeting you last night. I’ll be sure to keep my eyes out for you at the next happy hour.
Huh. Although pleasant enough, he may as well just have written ‘I’m not interested’. Boo. No clue how guys do it all the time. What a crappy feeling!
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Sorry to hear that Grey! Hope that you find someone soon….. Hope that you are having a wonderful start to your summer!!
Hi Emilie! You and me both ;-)! Summer is off to a great start, thank you! Well, all but my love life, that is. Hope all is well with you!!
“As you came up in my matches today, I just thought I’d say ‘hi’”
As a guy I can tell you that that little tag line would make me think, “well she made sure to make clear she was not interested in anything other than saying hi, so I won’t be a creep and ask for anything more.” Guys are considered creepy these days for even approaching a woman. Unless it is clear that a woman is interested in dating, most guys i know are through with assuming otherwise. Not worth risking the rejection and social ostracization. If you’re interested in going on a date, grabbing lunch, drinks or dinner, then say so. Welcome to equality ladies.
Hmmm, interesting. As I wrote the ‘say hi’ part after complimenting him on his profile, saying that I thought we had lots in common and suggesting we compare collections was more than enough to leave the door open for him and show him that I was interested. 😦