Honest to G-d, online dating attracts some of the shittiest people in the universe. Before I could even meet Mr.Cut Off Communication, he turned into an ass. As I will do for any ass-wipe who pisses me off, below is our exchange, word for word, after I checked in to make sure we were still on for our date.
ME: As I haven’t heard from you, I just wanted to make sure we were still on for Thursday at 7pm. Looking forward to meeting you!
HIM: I am sorry but since there is such a high flake factor on these sites I don’t continue dialogue until we meet. if was not available I would let you know. We are still on for a drink or two to meet tomorrow at Blue Martini at 7 pm
ME: Interesting, but I guess I get it. See you tomorrow at 7.
HIM: I am sure you have other people you are seeing or planning to see. You appear to have any issue with my approach. I may suggest that you see the other men and see if you have a connection. Let me know otherwise if it does not work out for you on these other dates. I have told you I don’t like to date stack. I am open to seeing you but don’t want to waste your time or mine.
ME: I can’t believe you just sent that to me. I have told you that I don’t ‘date stack’. However you don’t seem to believe me, pretty much calling me a liar. You need to be careful what you infer from a simple statement of ‘interesting, but I guess I understand’. You don’t seem to be a trusting person and obviously think the worst of people, so that probably won’t work. I was looking forward to meeting you, and only thought your ‘no communication without meeting’ was odd as you didn’t bother to tell me that that was your approach before doing it. You just didn’t respond to my last message and assumed I would figure out that was what you were doing? I might suggest that if you are going to cut off contact for whatever cynical reason, you should probably let the other person know.
Am I missing something? What the hell did I do to deserve that ridiculous message?!! Isn’t it polite to reconfirm a date so the other person is assured that they won’t get stood up?