So I was supposed to meet ‘Hi’ on Thursday for what he didn’t specifically say, but I assumed was to be dinner. As part of my ‘stop trying to manage dates’ campaign of 2017, instead of trying to steer it to just drinks, I said okay. A girl’s gotta eat. 😉 He has checked in most days since the date was set with either a ‘hi’ (his trademark, ya’ know), a ‘how’s your day’ or a ‘good morning’. Very sweet. Oddly enough, his ‘good morning’ texts usually come in between noon and 1pm. Er, technically not morning but whatever.
He messaged me today saying he couldn’t wait to meet me! Again, so very sweet. He then asked if I could meet tonight instead of Thursday. I figured why not. While still not able to get excited about the date, I was so hoping to be pleasantly surprised. I followed all my new best friend’s/psychic’s advice on being positive and manifesting good things.
Well, let’s just call this a trial run. I put on a cute outfit and arrived at the restaurant. As I was early, I was waiting outside playing a rousing game of Words With Friends when he walked up. Great big smile, shorter than me and several years older than his profile photos depicted. He was SO nice, but the conversation was SO stilted and awkward I just couldn’t ‘connect’ with him. To be honest, I wasn’t trying very hard, but then again, I don’t think you should have to try hard for it to happen.
We had a great dinner and he picked up the bill which was very nice (again, my new best friend/psychic/dating coach told me to stop offering to pay or split the check). He walked me to my car and gave me a hug.
Odd things about our date:
- He grabbed my hand right away
- He then high fived me (what?)
- Then I got a fist bump
- Then he invited himself to my vacation property – WITH ME!
- Then, for whatever reason we were talking about taxes (shush, it just came up) and he asked me if I usually get a refund or have to pay
- He played with my hair
- He invited me to go to the mountains with him in his RV
- He was apparently interested in the Fitbit I was wearing, but instead of asking about it, he just reached across me and grabbed my wrist! Mind you, we weren’t even talking about it, he just randomly did this.
Now, we all know that if I was into the guy, a few of these things wouldn’t have been so odd/annoying, but as I wasn’t, WTF? We also know that if I’m not really ‘feeling’ a date (although he felt me several times!), I will try to make myself be the opposite of what he says he likes. If he likes Rock, I say I like bee-bop music. If he says he loves sci-fi, I say I hate it. If he likes to vacation in an RV, I say I prefer hotels. In this instance, however, I didn’t need to do any of that as we naturally seem to be polar opposites with absolutely nothing in common.
I feel bad about this one. He is a nice guy and really wants to find someone, but I’m just not her. I wish I knew someone for him ……