It’s important. And I’m not talking about in a new bra kinda way. Although I did just get some of those in the anticipation that someone might actually see them in the not so distant future, but we all know how that went. So for now, it’s just me & my dog that get to partake in the visual. However, my online dates get to benefit from the newly found perk. But I digress …..
I fixate. A lot. For a strong, independent Type A personality, I am oddly needy and insecure at times. Usually around men. Oh hell, who am I kidding? Always around men. Men that I like. No clue when this all started as I didn’t used to be this way. I was the one in college that would party with, sleep with and not give a care about some of the hottest and nicest guys on campus. I just wasn’t worried about it. I was young and cute and had my shit together. That seems like a lifetime ago.
Anywhoo, you all know my new theory about dating down. About only dating guys that don’t make me insane. Only dating guys that I will be happy to see, but not obsess about if I don’t. The way I fixate on men is truly disturbing. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean fixate in a Glenn Close, boiled pet bunny sort of way. My fixations only wreak havoc on my own psyche and that of my friends as they have to listen to me spin out of control.
I was out with my best girlfriend in town last night. Her son and several of his friends were there as well. I stated my new dating decision to her. She looked at me inquisitively and I said, with as much self awareness as I’ve always had ‘I just can’t handle dating men that I’m totally into; it makes me a little insane’. Being the good and supportive friend that she is, she rolled her eyes and declared ‘no shit’. She fully supports this new decision of mine.
I am off to meet a new online date. I promise you that if he is too handsome, too nice, too smart, too witty, too anything, that I will high tail it out of there as fast as I can. Here’s hoping that he’s ‘just nice enough’ for me to not spin out of control……..