Not sure what this phrase even means. I guess it’s up for interpretation. To me it means getting to point B from point A as fast as possible. To me it implies taking shortcuts and not really valuing the quality of the ‘route’ but just trying to accomplish something as fast as possible. Mistakes and shoddy quality be damned.
You can imagine the look I gave my friend as we sat at happy hour on Monday with a mutual friend who is married. We were regaling her with our stories of online dating. My friend, who is my Bumble compatriot, says ‘yeah, Grey is on the fast track’. Wasn’t quite sure how to take that. Of course my 1st inclination was to be offended. And I sort of was.
Is that what I’m doing by being on several dating sites at once and going on more than the average number of dates? I never thought of it as ‘fast tracking’ (proven my 7 years, give or take, of online dating – thus, the blog). I think of it more as a game of numbers. And by game, I of course mean a lengthy and soul crushing journey to find the bright shinny penny in the piles of garbage. Yes, there’s someone for everyone. My someone just seems to be hiding. Either that or I’ve already met him and scared him off. Yikes. That thought scares the hell out of me. I’ll choose to go with the hiding theory.
I am currently on Bumble, Plenty of Fish & Tinder. I have several pen pals on Tinder. I’ve yet to meet anyone off of there. I’m still on the fence as to whether it’s a hookup site or not. Plenty of Fish provided NYE date and several unsuitable dates. Bumble is just kind of ‘meh’. I did remember another phone based dating app called ‘Coffee Meets Bagel’ that I downloaded last weekend and which has provided me with 2 matches so far. 1 I met last night and 1 is currently annoying the hell out of me with text messages. I never activated my ‘Our Time’ profile, so that doesn’t count. So let’s see, I’m on 4 apps right now.
Is that too many? I honestly don’t think it is or that I’m fast tracking anything. Do I want to meet someone? Hell yes! Am I willing to settle? Uhm, no. Do I get attached MUCH too quickly to men that I don’t yet really know? Sadly, yes, but it happens very rarely as I usually swing towards the other end of the spectrum and don’t feel a connection with most. Am I okay being alone? Well, my friends, that is the true question. And I don’t really have an answer for that these days.
So here are the facts: She’s on one site and has had met 1 man this year. I’m on four sites and have met 8. We’re both still single. Who’s way is right? As we all know my favorite thing in the universe to do is to overthink things (2018 resolutions be damned), she now has me wondering …….
****edited to add: before all the haters out there bash me for being ‘too picky’, I assure you, I’m not. While I don’t have one of those dreaded ‘lists’ that I expect men to meet, I DO expect to feel the slightest desire to kiss or be kissed by one of them****go about your days now ❤