The Life & Times of a 54 Year Old Online Dater

Thoughts on My Experiences In Search of Love & Companionship, 10 Years Running

Exciting News or …….. I Need To Up My Meds May 24, 2013

Filed under: internet dating — Grey Goose, Dirty @ 7:31 pm
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** haha, I just found this in my drafts folder ….. I wrote it a couple of months ago …… keep that in mind when you’re deciding whether or not I’m a total nutjob or not** 😉

I’d like you all to meet someone.  He’s someone very special to me.  He treats me well, puts up with all my crazy neurosis, doesn’t belittle me or make me feel like 2nd choice.  He listens.  And remembers.  He even seems to care what I have to say.  Just to give you an idea, here are just a few things that have happened in the past  two weeks:

1) When he found out I was having a really bad day, he offered to take me to dinner.  When he discovered that our original destination was closed for a private party, he must have searched the recesses of his memory to pull out the name of a restaurant that I must have mentioned in passing at some point and took my there.  It’s my favorite hole in the wall sushi place (and while normally ‘hole in the wall’ and ‘sushi’ is a recipe for disaster and something to run screaming from, this place is awesome!).   We then went for a walk around the waterfront (that’s what we call the canal around here in order to fancify things).

2) He’s come over to my house (I rarely, if ever, let people know where I live for fear that when they decide I suck or *gasp* the opposite, they then know which windows to peep into) and we’ve taken the dogs for a walk to the park down the street from me where we played on the swings before walking to a restaurant near me where we tied the doggies up to the railing and had dinner on the patio.  Just the 5 of us.  Me, him and my 3 (!) dogs.

3)  He knows I’m crazy busy with work this week and since I can’t actually set aside any time for him in the next 4 days, he’s going to volunteer with me at a ‘Rock The Zoo’ event on Friday.

He’s sweet and kind and everything I could ever imagine.  As a matter of fact, that’s what I’ve done.  I’ve imagined him.  As in made him up.  He doesn’t exist.  I just got tired of people asking me (with some shitty look of pity in their eyes) how dating was going.  So I thought that instead of my patented ‘still looking/trying/trying not to stab myself in the eye’ response, I opted to mix it up a bit.  And it’s fairly pathetic.  And I know this.  And I did it anyway.  Damn, I’m going to have to break up with him soon before anyone actually wants to meet him!

Feel free to let me know what a psychopath you think I am in the comments.  😉


The Oddly Disconcerting Mindset Of Internet Daters October 21, 2010

Filed under: bad dates,internet dating — Grey Goose, Dirty @ 3:25 am
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Re member my friend who compared internet dating to ordering a pizza?  He was right!! The apparent mindset of most internet daters is that there is always someone new/better/prettier/more interesting/worth a shot out there.  Who knew?

As difficult as ‘normal’ dating is in the real vs virtual world, I think that internet dating is a bit tougher on the psyche as you can actually ‘see’ when a guy you’re interested in is online.  Huh, if he’s not e-mailing me, he must be e mailing 50 other women on the site trying to hedge his bets, right?  Okay fine, that’s human nature for some, but the fact that you can actually ‘see’ it happening is horrifying!

I’ve always been fairly confident in my dating abilities and ability to attract men.  This is the 1st year that I actually question that.  I mean really – 10 months, 24 different guys and yet to have a 4th date with anyone?  Ouch.  I guess I’m not as cool as I thought. 

I think that internet dating makes you question yourself.  As I’ve always been a pretty introspective person, the fact that this adds to that is borderline annoying as hell!  I have to wonder what it is that I do right, wrong, whatever on a date.  Huh…… crappy feeling. 

I can talk the paint off a wall, have a great sense of humor and take very little seriously (with the exception of myself, apparently), but this really does make me question things.

I am well aware that a lot of people portray themselves less than honestly on their profiles.  That is absolutely not my style.  I am who I am and love me or hate me, I’ll never act otherwise.  I find as the months drag on and the number of guys increases, I have started to analyze my dating style.  I hate that!

Although this blog is mostly about all my horrible dates that I would never in a million years want a 2nd date with, we all know that there have been a couple guys that I did like, that for whatever reason, weren’t interested in me. 😦

I remember the good old days when you’d meet a guy, strike up a conversation, find you have things in common and like each other and viola’! you go out again ……and again.  I am absolutely convinced that internet dates, by comparison, may go very well, however guys will still go back home, check their e-mails for new winks or notes, ‘cruise’ the new women, and see if there is anyone better!  That’s a pretty tough pill to swallow!

I realize that I am generalizing horribly, but hey, this is my blog and these are my thoughts and experiences.  Going into this, I had none of these notions ……..

Ugh, I hate when I get this way ……. very annoying.  I must get back to acting like nothing matters and know that Friday’s date will go great! *fingers crossed*

Thanks for listening to my introspective bullshit today and I promise to get back to my funny bad date stories for my next post!

OMG! I almost forgot to mention my least favorite part of this site that I am on!  They actually keep track of how many times your profile has been viewed! Guess what my number is! Really, go ahead!  As of today, it’s 6,012!!! Really?? That means that 5,900+ guys have looked at/read my profile and decided NOT to contact me.  ouch!