The Life & Times of a 54 Year Old Online Dater

Thoughts on My Experiences In Search of Love & Companionship, 10 Years Running

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Would You Like Some Dip With That Chip? July 1, 2011

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I get a message yesterday from some random idiot guy from Match and although it was very nice, I couldn’t tell if it was a ‘form’ message or not, so I was going to write back calling him out on it (well shit, I have to get in my 5 mandatory messages to new guys each month so as not to invalidate the ‘loser clause’ in order to be rewarded my 6 months free as a pity prize for not being able meet a decent guy during my 1st 6 months –  yeah, well aware, i’m a loser) but I decided to read his profile first.  Uh, in addition to being more of a tome than a simple snippet of his personality, it was uber bitter!  Holy cow!  He must have had no less than 20 must haves and must not haves (reminiscent of that bitchy profile I put up briefly last year).  So in addition to asking about whether or not he had even bothered to read my profile, I asked him is he just has a really dry sense of humor or if he has a big ole’ chip on his shoulder.  Oh stop acting surprised, I do shit like this all the time. ;-).  As his response, he waxed poetic about how awesome my profile is (’cause it really is) and avoided addressing anything about his own.  Not sure what to make of that.  Or that I even care.

Here’s what he wrote to me and honestly, it is amazingly complimentary (aside from the fact that he actually felt the need to explain what self-deprecating, which he spelled wrong,  means to me), but not sure what to do as his own profile is still pretty darn harsh.

Glad you wrote back.  No, life is much to short to go around with a “great big chip” on my shoulder.  I was simply impressed with your profile.  It is a bit more sophisticated when some one is able to use self-deprication (tongue-in-cheek) and make fun of her own imperfections.  Don’t try reading anymore into it.  You are very pretty (and likely out of my league) yet you have a superb personality and it shows.  Not everyone (nor even the majority) can make the words come alive and present a picture and personality in a few paragraphs; you did it very well and that’s all I meant.

Now, if you’d like to buy me a cup of coffee, I’ll let you 😉

If I don’t hear from you, have a great Holiday weekend and good luck on this site.  I hope we each find the one who takes our breath away….but I’m not holding mine 😉

What do you think?  Is a very complimentary message enough to over-ride a really negative sounding profile?  I’m a bit perplexed (which means confused 😉 )


. *edited to add that NO, I do not have that bitchy profile still up – that only lasted a week 😉 *